Ah, Byron Katie...
First a quote:
"If I had a prayer it would be:please save me from ever believing that I need anyone else's love, approval or appreciation."
Another quote, this time from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:
"If I love you, what business is that of yours?"
Which spawned a variety of variations often mis-attributed all over the internet, my favourite being:
"It is none of my business what you think of me."
So much of what parents do seems to be about what it might look like to someone else. What someone else might think about it... or them... or their kids.
The reality of the situation is, though, that everyone in the world is spending an enormous amount of run-time worrying about what everyone else is thinking. For the average person this means something so important, I'm going to put it in bold, and then refrain from adding anything else, because it says it all.
What this means is that all those people, who are thinking about what other people are thinking about them...
are not thinking about you
or what you're doing
or your kids
(unless it's related somehow to themselves)
...so, chill out...
