Showing posts with label unhappiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label unhappiness. Show all posts

Tuesday, 27 October 2009

Unhappy in a Great Life? The Reason is the Misery Contract

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...recently been thinking about happiness --talking about it, reading a great book (What Happy People Know by the guy who runs one of the programs at Canyon Ranch) about it...

It seems to me that many people have unilaterally signed a contract with the universe that is not only unnecessary, but that is quite insane. I call it the


The Misery Contract

https://www.flickr.com/photos/knowuh/4445551236/in/photolist-7LQBv7-s2T93f-7fX9y6-7i3G4x-o5uNv-8ktTky-9xTYT1-6bKNox-rBZupH-ej53ZN-7RrcWR-7Fyk5S-cGCZLj-ftqE1w-aiD2M4-4fTd6M-72nQzm-6bPYoY-jh6Ux9-a4Lj5P-89Pvty-6uFiHy-nfV9Zi-6JMMkb-qKg2gA-7oRoEC-9moxrU-asAEai-bNBJUM-fij5rW-8ktJCG-axQEac-gJX5xm-9sVXg-nwGHGm-8ktTwC-pFRaLa-fNZQ2y-our6D6-8oie65-fdbZtb-78nLPf-d9XvkS-qhfG9n-4fXd3N-4fTcR8-Ui8uCE-iGRg2-6jUuyX-8kqFJF




I will be happy when all--not some, but all of my conditions are met.

who was it that wanted you to be happy and has pissed you off?





https://www.flickr.com/photos/donnieray/16686547995/in/photolist-nGzSVF-6Gb2Z5-rqwVnn-8EVRmL-ffyzjj-nnPxWR-fcSJK9-QYi53P-ffyAe3-ffjnwa-ff7R8U-feTphV-ffCGCC-ffjkmr-m5w3X2-ff8G9U-feSzFX-ffyyGA-4mpem4-ffjnqv-ff7RMG-ffoth4-ffCFKj-fcCqbR-nkNNWH-ffCGws-ff7QVw-feToYk-feSzsx-ff7RoE-7p3miG-ffotFK-ffjkXn-aptST7-feSyPt-ffjm4i-feSzbT-ff7Qy9-rv851t-ffjkhg-ffjksR-feToMx-pLnmFD-ffjjCv-9qqG12-nkMVME-feSycr-ffjk7H-feSyAp-Lp7tH





I have to get all this stuff done before I can afford to be happy.
just what do you think happiness is?






https://www.flickr.com/photos/49024304@N00/535118343/in/photolist-PhC3k-6g4StL-feSAhK-ffjjvV-6hVMpn-qactiL-ffCFDS-nkLMmU-ff8GiS-ffjkzg-ff8GeG-6ytzXE-ffyAkw-9poVEY-nkLoe1-feSAdp-ffyykG-ff7RHw-ffCG7A-6QpfEc-ff8FQS-feSzAM-ff8FVd-ff7QPS-hu2XEd-dGFRjS-ffCFQu-ffjnaR-ffCGjs-ff8FKu-nm4AcP-dSjGG4-F2wxJ-k3trpd-V3FHGj-7FKcqN-ffyAr1-ffyzKU-dV2m5e-7FKcg1-cceTpG-o3n3eP-ff7Swo-feSA1H-ffjmv6-4bXr87-ffjjJg-nkP1zo-ffyzeW-ffCFt9


As long as that person is in my life, I will prove they've screwed up my life by being miserable.
ooh, excellent plan, that will really get through to. . . . no one



https://www.flickr.com/photos/kellyshort6/9272680133/in/photolist-kyNviP-cxa1zW-VqL7NK-8NTksS-TJn7Hx-iFiov3-f8oUKp-9RJVJ9-qKg2gA-7oRoEC-cKPgLS-5pviTW-5WqRN7-n6WMwF-cyLCgu-SuvaTp-Td5uTs-fdbZtb-f9o9TQ-2V2uSq-9HUs18-86zoYs-SLugWA-6QNZPd-Turv6S-hczdSr-jMASxA-ekdRs6-8ktJCG-pqzhaw-pxCj6J-5MkvKt-k1H7g-SrQC9S-7ScLXL-RA84ED-dgpMz-m6AhLv-pN5XXz-TJnf7k-k29US4-orFshZ-6EKf74-fQJXYE-USr7US-eM9VhS-dqXdDc-eXKW2H-neuow5-czCHt9


Things that happened before now will preclude my happiness until they have not happened.
good luck with that


https://www.flickr.com/photos/vinothchandar/8530944828/in/photolist-dZRjFE-Ssmino-9VnEiv-d4Sv2m-7i3G4x-T2Czdi-SrQGj5-aELXrc-2cWNX-8ktTky-dBLX8s-UBQEpo-9hYGck-5LXQkJ-opJhwR-rnGVby-TEKvsb-cx3ncY-fvg7Et-gwmAC2-rSUbew-b7daa2-gwmN7H-poFR4k-dXXP6L-88bgji-6r2pZR-F8uHQ-dY6F5h-dX8M7i-8fwvFX-g1EDcJ-UtAbDo-o8uGfJ-c2ySdj-6KGi2S-SAkPNA-TJn81M-64qbTH-7XSowL-61VxKd-4pwCzk-kyNviP-cxa1zW-VqL7NK-8NTksS-TJn7Hx-iFiov3-f8oUKp-9RJVJ9

I can't be as [young, free, rich, pretty, thin, helpful, generous, intelligent, popular, wise, funny, powerful, famous, capable, talented, lucky, sexy, fit, healthy, immortal] as I want to be, so I can't be happy.
1. who says you can't be, and; 2. what's that got to do with anything?


https://www.flickr.com/photos/wwworks/4614048392/in/photolist-82JcQu-ff7RWW-mKvdtV-ffCFVL-ffyyqG-feSyw8-2DgxSG-ffyA8G-ffjkEa-ffyAwu-ffjjfx-feTpGt-feSzNp-PhC3k-6g4StL-feSAhK-ffjjvV-6hVMpn-qactiL-ffCFDS-nkLMmU-ff8GiS-ffjkzg-ff8GeG-6ytzXE-ffyAkw-9poVEY-nkLoe1-feSAdp-ffyykG-ff7RHw-ffCG7A-6QpfEc-ff8FQS-feSzAM-ff8FVd-ff7QPS-hu2XEd-dGFRjS-ffCFQu-ffjnaR-ffCGjs-ff8FKu-nm4AcP-dSjGG4-F2wxJ-k3trpd-V3FHGj-7FKcqN-ffyAr1


My life is not my own, I have responsibilities and obligations I have to live up to before I can be happy.
you're crazy --that's ridiculous... be happy AND fulfill your obligations and responsibilities



https://www.flickr.com/photos/goodncrazy/4832837733/in/photolist-8n4yhv-haxsyR-8FshW-MU9Ax-dNuG2Y-ntBYKd-jJsRoA-gwmN7H-61HzUd-kjqTBz-VLbaiY-g1EDcJ-8CX4ZG-4Lx3Lo-asGx7f-nZXdw6-jYV37y-7oaZa5-6bB8S4-3EVoTQ-9AiEUa-eZmHq7-atMLeP-iFiov3-UAgFcR-pNMach-2GC3kD-ej7uza-mnqWNY-h4xts-tSRWFe-4nSBL2-VLb9Yu-4Z999Y-6DwV1e-ag86pM-8EVRmL-VVYcwy-VC2K9V-7E3U4g-dJqU9o-RpSyap-9HUs18-qJNzyP-e2FCFs-sabkuG-kqc1KU-pNKrfa-abeGUe-bb37K4


They need to compensate me for what they've done --then I can be happy.
cool idea, but 'to compensate' means 'to give OTHER than what is needed' --how will that help?


https://www.flickr.com/photos/13476480@N07/23373769723/in/photolist-9sgf2f-4pHA1V-iMfqi-5Nk1kr-3oRzvQ-o7TS5V-2uYEG-oaGAEy-y5BNv-9dxRJZ-f8qaGe-81oZty-BBsFpH-iTmyD-8LZyH8-dPPY2m-c72dwW-iTm4q-5EeBF6-4Mixph-5n4rWg-agt4yA-7JUGWT-iTkRB-u1i5Tj-2aKwFd-HLXdMH-VAXhd4-rW5W25-SbX4am-VMTqJJ-PPzjPK-VMTqd3-tm2JnR-u1i1Lb-7U8nXc-iTmkD-5gydif-7V6Ke4-5PdtYv-BQHdGn-CgW4iP-MDnkRJ-CmUZTQ-J89yCV-UJ1jyX-v1imhP-ad2Npb-62ZXcb-giTr4



I am deeply flawed and have sinned, when I'm pure I can be happy.
yeah, so, never then, eh?


I am not worthy, I haven't earned happiness and don't deserve it.
oh. my. god.


https://www.flickr.com/photos/kellyshort6/7920083938/in/photolist-d4Sv2m-7i3G4x-T2Czdi-SrQGj5-aELXrc-2cWNX-8ktTky-dBLX8s-UBQEpo-9hYGck-5LXQkJ-opJhwR-rnGVby-TEKvsb-cx3ncY-fvg7Et-gwmAC2-rSUbew-b7daa2-gwmN7H-poFR4k-dXXP6L-88bgji-6r2pZR-F8uHQ-dY6F5h-dX8M7i-8fwvFX-g1EDcJ-UtAbDo-o8uGfJ-c2ySdj-6KGi2S-SAkPNA-TJn81M-64qbTH-7XSowL-61VxKd-4pwCzk-kyNviP-cxa1zW-VqL7NK-8NTksS-TJn7Hx-iFiov3-f8oUKp-9RJVJ9-qKg2gA-7oRoEC-cKPgLS



There is too much evil in the world, too many people killed and maimed and starving and suffering for it to be okay for me to be happy.
how does it help them to have you suffering too?






https://www.flickr.com/photos/andrea_44/2662443691/in/photolist-54gHKz-bK4mzn-4s2cC9-snfL3-h2MVaC-dawbzk-apnzwn-hawf8b-A8zQK-aeujMJ-eTc3wj-rixT2H-VjXMQw-ardvaJ-iv5z7h-iv5riH-haweiA-iv5t4L-pSohzC-hawaBZ-7g8ASU-9f7LVj-U9Ukcx-V91HMh-hawees-oPX4mB-sng3p-araT5F-QwvEjB-bZLHg5-iv5ZHF-bZLDpq-659nNY-eTc9rh-8nwFZ1-oxqNgY-UzqGmG-3g4PVn-nuhk9L-4AugyE-9fAsLp-oMTF4Q-qcwB4v-9bQ2j5-oxrscz-nvb5Gi-7PWNzN-67jppr-dKEEdU-s9iZcn


I am in pain. I'll be happy when I don't hurt.
the case is closed: pain lost --happiness alleviates a lot of pain and makes whatever pain is left much easier to endure

I am afraid to be happy. Too much good stuff happening attracts bad luck.
ha. ha. ha. ha. no it doesn't